There are two approaches to the world. One is to view the world as a fearful and threatening place. To live with caution, always keeping one eye out for potential dangers and the things that could go wrong. The other way is to live with complete trust and faith, to believe that whatever happens we can handle it and meanwhile to celebrate life and all of the opportunities it presents to connect, to share, to inspire and to love!
The benefit of the first approach is that you seem to have some level of control over life. You can choose to avoid situations that appear threatening. You can make contingency and back-up plans that create the illusion of safety. You may, in the moment, feel prepared for the worst that could happen. Yet the downside is that you just end up living on “high alert”. Vital energy is wasted contemplating different scenarios and plans. And don’t you find that if the worst does occur, there are no good feelings or contentment to be had? Just an over-riding sense
of despair as you think to yourself “I
However, when you choose a loving approach to the world, something intriguing begins to happen! Firstly you notice that external circumstances don’t have to change in order for you to feel safe. When you allow love to permeate every cell of your body, you not only radiate good feelings to everyone else, the real benefit is that YOU feel peaceful, centered and totally secure, no matter what is happening in the outside world. But the second (and more surprising) benefit is that you seem to naturally avoid difficult situations or confrontations. You decide to take a different journey to work and later hear about an accident on your usual route. You miss a call on your phone and subsequently find out that it was a colleague who was angry or upset. You only get to talk to them when they have calmed down or cleared up a misunderstanding. There are countless examples of this. When you are not a match for problems, they just don’t manage to find you!
This may sound very appealing, after all, wouldn’t we all want to have less problems and issues to deal with? So how do you invite a more a more loving viewpoint into your life? It sounds simplistic but it really is a conscious decision to choose our approach to life. Here are a few tips to get you started…
Love is born through appreciation. Take a few moments every morning and evening to find at least three things to give thanks for. They can be as small or as big as you want so long as you really feel the appreciation.
Start to become aware of how you judge other people. Thoughts are powerful and get transmitted in the space in between us. If you want proof of this, buddy up with a friend and try switching between thinking of someone you don’t like and someone you do and notice how easy it is to tell the difference even with your eyes closed! After this, you may want to think more loving and kind thoughts about your friends, family and colleagues.
Love begins at home. We can’t be loving towards other people whilst berating, judging and criticising ourselves. Write a list of your best qualities. Come up with as many as you can. Find at least 100 and notice how your viewpoint on life begins to shift!
There are many other ways in which we can develop our trust and faith in the Universe. Are you willing to make that decision to choose love over fear?
By Tiffany Kay
Tiffany Kay is a transformational coach, inspirational speaker and the creator of Living an Inspired Life. After flat-lining through the early part of her life, Tiffany faced a challenging and transformational time of awakening. Following her son’s open-heart surgery, she realised that life matters and made a deliberate and conscious decision to make her life a life that counted. Since then she has been inspiring others to discover the truth of who they are!
Tiffany runs a coaching programme called “Your Life Two” that helps women to turn crises and transitions into awakenings – to design and sculpt an inspired life and to find the happiness they truly deserve.
Tiffany is also the author of “JoyScope” – a book and blog offering daily inspirations to nourish the heart and soul.