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May 02

Inspirational Woman of The Month (May 2012)

Julia Hague

My name is Julia Hague, I was born in 1957 in London and was educated in a Convent School where I learned how to be strong, compassionate, and confident and an independent thinking young woman.  I think the fact that the nuns were these strong independent women was a huge influence on me.  One of them, my Latin tutor, told me one evening when she was giving me private Latin tuition to get me through an exam, that she had chained herself to the railings with Emily Pankhurst, one of the Suffragettes.  It intrigued and fascinated me that she had had the independence of spirit to make huge brave choices in her life and was sitting tutoring me, nonchalantly telling me something huge from her past.

I was 14….. Growing up in the Sixties and Seventies in such a vibrant city as London gave me a love of people and a fascination for what makes them tick.  I’d sit at a pavement café and watch the interactions between people, their arguments, their body language and I’d be mesmerised.  I still am.  I don’t make a good coffee companion because I get lost in other people’s worlds around me and tend not to hear my companion’s conversation!

I guess if you wanted me to sum myself up I’d describe myself as a writer who is an advocate for women across the world and how they feel about their own self-worth and I’m completely passionate about changing the way women look at themselves and others so that their own corner of the world is a better place, and they can then make their friends’ corner of the world better too and it becomes a domino effect of change.  If a woman can teach her daughter that she is beautiful in her own skin looking the way she does, no matter what her size or shape or hair colour etc, that she shouldn’t pay attention to bullies at school or in the work place who taunt and tease, usually because of their own insecurities,  then we stand a chance that the daughter will grow into a woman who will teach the same to her daughter and so on.  It’s a chain reaction.  It’s what I try to teach.


Women have it in their own hands to change the way they feel about themselves.  The Media has a lot to answer for.  It’s no shock to ordinary women that the most popular size in the shops here in the UK for women’s dresses is a 14 or a 16.  So why then do all the models wear size 6,8 or at most a 10?  Why do a lot of films have only heroines or main female characters in them who are perfect and slim?  Look at your average high street and look at the women walking down it.  Different shapes and sizes.  Amazingly interesting.  All these women are beautiful and worthwhile and absolutely unique.  We should be celebrating the uniqueness  because you only have to look at them to see the beauty.  Don’t just glance.  Reach inside and find it and once you have there’s no turning back.  Ever.  You’ll never view a woman as less worthy than another because she’s bigger or smaller or not wearing the latest fashion.  You’ll just see her worth and her gorgeousness. No one should let someone else dictate how they look or how they feel.  How dare they!  And what right do they have to do it? By talking to one another and sharing our own stories honestly, no matter how embarrassing or how ashamed we think we feel, there is always another woman out there feeling the same.  Women helping women. Finding ways to make other’s lives better. It’s that simple.

I felt so passionate about it that I started talking to other women all over the world.  Their stories were the same.  Embarrassment sometimes yes, but finally relief that they could tell someone who understood.   Fury often that having been bullied about their appearance at school they’d turned on themselves quite literally and let the feelings of worthlessness destroy their lives.  Often, just talking with them made a huge difference.  One girl who I talked with actually stopped being bulimic there and then. She’d been bulimic for years but had no one to talk to, no one to reason with or work out why she’d done it.  She said I’d saved her life.  Do you know what that makes you feel?  Humble, overwhelmed.

I brought out into the open stories from women who suffered from embarrassing body hair often caused by polycystic ovaries, big boobs, small boobs, big droopy tummies. Ordinary , everyday women or all ages who had the same everyday bodies, and the same issues, that other women had.

Some people might ask how I knew what it felt like to have body image issues.  I knew because I had had them too.  I’d been bullied at school, bullied at college, had polycystic ovaries, a non-perfect figure, a droopy tummy.  But I’d climbed out, worked out why I felt the way I did and decided that no one would ever make me feel bad about myself again. The stories the women told resounded with me.  I connected with their feelings and I wanted them to climb out too and never feel bad about themselves again.  I wanted them to love themselves just the way they were.  Unique. Beautiful.

Then I put the stories together into a book.  No publisher or agent was interested.  They didn’t know what to do with a book full of women’s personal stories about body image and self esteem.  But I knew.  So I self-published and distributed it through Amazon and as an e-book.

 

It doesn’t have any publicity.  It’s not in high street book shops. But it’s flying, slowly, across the world.  The little book with wings. Woman to woman.  Word of mouth or via twitter. I’ve had emails from Brazil to New Zealand and they say the same thing.  “Thank you for putting in black and white how I felt and making me realise it’s okay to be me.”

A few women have even bought second copies because the first is thumbed through so much.  It’s become their bedside companion when they feel down or need to share another “sister’s” story.  I love that it’s done that.  I love meeting women when I sell the book at live events and sign it for them and see the tears in their eyes and can hug them and connect.  It’s the most wonderful feeling in the world.  To even affect one woman and how she feels for the better.  To affect hundreds is a gift.

As well as my passion for women’s feelings of self-worth I am also passionate about charity fund raising, giving 100% of the profits from my book, which is incidentally called “You is For Unique”, to my chosen Charity, Sanctuary for Kids, a Canadian charity which is founded by one of my dearest friends, actress Amanda Tapping.

It’s a match made in heaven…my  book is helping women and is also helping children in crisis across the world! Perfect!

In my spare(!) time,  I am also CEO of my own not for profit Fundraising Events Company, Gabit Events which specialises in fundraising for Sanctuary for kids and Hearing Dogs for the Deaf in the world of Science Fiction fandom by running events in the UK for Amanda and her fans.  We’ve also just put together a distribution model for Sanctuary for kids to distribute their fundraising merchandise at no administration costs to them.

In case you are wondering I also have a full time job as a personal assistant to a Headteacher in a private girls’ school so my time is really taken up.  I’m also married, have been for thirty years, with a newly married daughter.

I guess I should throw into the mix that I am also trotting around my local park as frequently as I can to train as a Torch bearer for the London 2012 Olympics.  I got the surprise of my life when I was nominated by women readers of “You is for Unique” to the London 2012 Olympics Committee to carry the Olympic Torch and have been chosen via Coca-Cola to run in London on 24th July.  When I carry it I hope it reminds women all over the world that they are incredibly beautiful, all of them, and they can do anything they turn their hand to and it’s about time they all realised it!

 

“You is for Unique” is available at Amazon.co.uk at £9.99 for the paperback and is also available as an e-book on our website.

Information on Sanctuary for kids is available at www.sanctuaryforkids.org

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  1. Nat (nocaffnat)

    Julia, you are an inspiration, a true wonder and one of the most genuinely giving people I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. From one woman to another, thank you, with all my heart, for making me want to be a better person and to share what I can with others.

    1. admin

      Nat, this is a touching message you have wrote to Julia. Keep shining.

  2. Michelle

    Simply beautiful. Julia Hague is a wondeful, beautiful, inspiring woman. She has touched so many peoples hearts all around the world. Her book, “You is for Unique” is my all time favourite book, giving me the courage to accept me for who I am even if others don’t. I don’t think I could ever thank her enough.
    Thank you Julia. You are truly beautiful and most unique. xo

    1. admin

      I totally agree with you Michelle, Julia is a very powerful woman and people like her need to applauded.

  3. NZNeep

    Yes! This! We love you Julia, you truly are an inspiration. I bought a second copy of the book to lend people, because my first copy with your lovely inscription is never leaving my sight.

    1. admin

      That is very nice of you.




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